A Day in the Life of a Mom

momI realized a couple months back that I am in a unique situation in that I have been a full time working mom, a work at home mom, and a stay at home mom.  I think every new mom questions her choice to work or stay at home at some point.  The purpose of this post is to share with you what my schedule was like in each of these parenting situations.  Whether you are working and thinking of taking time off or staying home and starting to work in your home office part time, you can see how I managed and hopefully I will pass on some wisdom.

My Full Time Working Mom Schedule

5 AM:  Wake up, nurse and pump.  Put the baby back to sleep.  Get dressed for work.

6 AM: Make breakfast, run the Roomba, feed the dogs.

7 AM: Pump, wake up husband to be with the newly woken up baby and leave for work.

8 AM: Get to work, pump again, check emails, set up classroom, meetings, playground duty.

9 AM-11:30 AM: Teach

11:30 AM-1 PM: Lunch, pump, lunchroom duty

1 PM- 3:30 PM Teach

3:30 PM Leave work

4:00 PM Pick up baby from daycare or meet baby at home with nanny (we did both). Bath myself and baby.  Nurse, pump.  Baby napped.

6:00 PM Make dinner, make lunch for work, get bottles together for the next day or set aside frozen homemade baby food (my Saturday night project).

7:00 PM Read three books to baby, nurse and put to sleep.  Pump.  Watch a little TV and go to sleep.  I typically awoke 2-3 times a night to nurse and one time to pump.

My Stay At Home Mom Schedule

7 AM: Wake up with my baby and nurse. Change baby and go downstairs.  Coffee, let baby play while I catch up on the news.

8 AM: Toddler wakes up.  Change him, he comes downstairs too.  Feed the dogs, and give the boys milk.

8:30 AM: Wake up husband for work.  Get myself dressed, make breakfast for everyone.

9:30-11 AM: Clean up dishes, get the boys ready to leave, take them to their mommy and me class.

12-3 PM: Come home, have lunch, shower, and put the boys down for a nap.  Nurse the baby.  While they nap I start dinner, clean the floor, wipe off the countertops, do laundry, and dust.

3-5 PM: Let the boys free play.  I usually have a quiet play activity such as puzzles, a sensory bin, or an art activity as well.

5-6 PM: Make dinner, eat with the boys.

7-8 PM: Clean up dinner, put on our PJs, read stories and nurse baby.  After they go to sleep I could read or watch TV.

Schedule Variation -Work at Home Mom

7 AM- 8 AM: I work on the blog while the baby plays.

8 PM-10/11 PM: Work on my home business after putting the kids to bed.

 

Breastfeeding Tips for the Working Mom and the Stay at Home Mom 

This is a linked post.  Beautifully Imperfect Mama is writing a whole series of posts on breastfeeding-you can check them out at https://beautifullyimperfectmama.wordpress.com.  I think it’s really important for moms to get different perspectives on breastfeeding since there are so many experiences.  I have had two very different experiences with breastfeeding my sons and I’m sharing them here in this post.  Since becoming a mom two and a half years ago I have been a full-time working mom, a stay at home mom, and now I am at work at home mom. I have nursed my sons through all of these situations. If you are planning on nursing my tips might be helpful for you.  This is mom to mom advice, I am not a lactation consultant or a doctor. I’m just speaking from my personal experience.

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Breastfeeding while working I found to be much more challenging than being a stay at home mom and nursing. However, with that being said,  I was successful enough to breast-feed until Ben was a year old and I was already three months pregnant with Adam.  So do not despair!  You can work and have an excellent breast-feeding relationship with your baby.   My biggest challenges were finding a place to pump, having to pump frequently, keeping up my milk supply, and the amount of time I spent pumping.  According to the current legislation women are supposed to have a place to pump and be able to pump at their job.  I was able to pump at my job, and have some privacy.   I recommend if you’re going to go back to work that you speak with one of your supervisors about a time and place to pump.  I did via email.  I stated the time of day, the length of time I would be unavailable for, and where I would be pumping.  I also let the office staff know.  Full disclosure, despite all of this communication that I sent out, I did have the occasional time when somebody would disregard the note on the door and allowed themselves in.  I used a nursing poncho over the pump just in case of this.  I took a cooler with me every single day to put all of my bottles.  I hated cleaning all the bottles every single night so  if you’re going to be pumping two sessions within just a couple hours of each other you can leave your small bottles of milk covered in your desk and then take them out and finish pumping in to them if they’re only half full.   I also recommend having a lot of bottles with covers on them. You’ll need larger bottles the longer you pump. The little tubes that they give you in hospital are not going to suffice when your baby is six months old and nursing. So make sure that you purchased lots of bottles with caps.  To keep up my supply I had to pump frequently. I pumped on my lunch breaks, I pumped in the morning when I first got to work before my meetings, and I pumped during my preparatory time.  I pumped 3 to 4 times a day at my job site, and I also pumped four times at home.  That was my schedule when I was pumping 8 ounce bottles for a seven-month-old. When I returned to work after having Adam, he was my second baby, so I had a stronger supply.  My strategy was to pump at work during the times that I would normally be feeding him, that worked for about three weeks. Since I was separated from Adam my supply went down. So I started to pump at home in the morning and on the weekends to increase my supply for the week.  What helped me the most with keeping up my supply was:

  1. Every morning I ate oatmeal with flax seeds for breakfast. Oatmeal and flax seeds are a galactagogue.  That means they are proven to increase milk production in nursing moms.  Other foods I found helpful for nursing mothers’tea,  full fat dairy products, and organic eggs that I purchased from a farm.  Unprocessed eggs are much creamier, and richer.
  2. I drank a gallon of water a day.
  3. I nursed frequently at home and held my baby a lot when I was home. Being close to your baby increases your milk supply.  I recommend safely co sleeping with your baby while you are nursing and working. Safe co sleeping means that the baby has their own enclosed space that they sleep in separate from you but near you. There are sidecar co sleepers (I used one with boys my boys) and co sleepers that go in the bed with you.
  4. Baby wearing when you’re home. I would wear my children and go for a walk in the evening or as I ran my errands on the weekend I would put them in my Ergo.
  5. I pumped every opportunity I had. If I woke up in the middle of the night to go get a glass of water I would take 15 minutes and pump. If you’re somebody who wakes up in the night I would recommend keeping a cooler with some ice inside of it so you can pump during the night and put your milk in the cooler and not have to leave your bed.

A working, nursing mom has to be able to multitask. I would answer emails and get all my computer work done while I was pumping. I would have projects laid out on my desk that I would  be working on while I was pumping.  Pumping does not have to slow down your productivity it will just simply tie you to your desk for 15 to 20 minutes.

Breastfeeding as a stay at home mom was much easier.  I was the bottle, I could nurse with Adam anywhere I went, also I had fewer supply issues. As a stay at home mom I never pump. The pump is especially helpful though if you are having supply issues, you can pump after you nurse if you times in the day and increase your milk supply. Also, if dad wants to get involved with feeding the baby, you can pump a bottle or two during the day and have that available to dad. As a second time mom I had no problem to nurse in public. With my older son I would pump and take a bottle with me, take baby food with me, even take formula sometimes. I was shy to nurse in public with him.  I learned that you have to practice with your nursing cover right away so your baby gets used to being under a poncho or cover. My first son I did not do this with, he would fight the cover and that left me feeling very shy.  I also exclusively breast-fed longer with my second child, up until nine months. My decision to do that was twofold: on one hand we had an excellent nursing relationship and on the other hand I knew we were going to take a month in Israel.  I figured the easiest thing would be for me to feed him via nursing rather than lugging around baby food.  I cannot say that my decision to stay at home rather than work is a main contributing factor as to the length of time I’m spending nursing each son. I would say that pregnancy was the main factor as to why I weaned Ben when I did.  During pregnancy it becomes more uncomfortable to nurse, your milk changes, and I have a tough time in my first trimester so adding in my discomfort nursing him was not helpful. Luckily for me it was a mutual choice to end the nursing relationship when we did.

I mentioned that I use a poncho to cover myself when I am nursing in public.  I also recommend if you’re going to nurse for at least a year to have plenty of nursing tops and pajama tops that pull or clip down.  Are used these both at work and as a stay at home mom. I could throw a cardigan or blazer over them at work. It makes pumping and nursing so much easier if you have something that is comfortable. Also nursing in public is more easily facilitated and manageable when you were in a nursing top and a cover. My favorite cover is a stretchy nursing poncho because it covers also my back if I do have to lift up my shirt. A swaddling blanket is also a great way to cover yourself.

A piece of advice and another mom gave me is to wean slowly. She weaned one of her sons quickly and the hormones that help with breast-feeding caused her to go into a depression for several months.  Now that I’m starting to work part time from home with the intent that I will work more in the following months I am planning in my mind how to cut back with Adam so I don’t have any depression and he will be ready for part time preschool.

Hump-Day Hype!

Homeschooling:Our Schedule

When I decided I wanted to stay home with my boys one of my big reasons was that Ben was outgrowing staying home everyday  with our nanny.  She was more than perfect and still remains a close friend, but he needed to be socialized.  Adam at the time had just been born and would, of course, benefit from being close to his mom.  So I have created a class schedule for the week that introduces the boys to several subjects and experiences.

homeschoolingSunday: Ben has swimming class.

Monday: Both boys go to Open Gym at Gymboree.

Tuesday: Both boys go to music class at Gymboree

Wednesday: Play date/play group day.

Thursday: Both boys go to Toddler Time at our local science museum.

Friday: Both boys go to storytime at our local library.

Saturday: Ben attends the Sabbath program at our synagogue.

Adam learning about African music at Gymboree.

The boys having fun at Lego Club.

Once a month the boys have our My Petite Picassos play group on a Wednesday at our home.  They also attend Lego club at our library. Depending on the weather we hike pretty often with a babywearing group and we attend Attachment Parenting International play groups and meetings. We also are working on completing the 1000 Books Before Kindergarten program at our local library. Language skills are really important in our home because the boys are learning two languages:English and Hebrew.  Ben is fluent in both.
The boys get a lot of socialization and exposure to a variety of interests.  I’m able to help them navigate these early experiences which is such a blessing.